I have a crush on a guy whom I met in the church that I was attending. He is a foreign student who is studying in college now.
I try to get close to him by talking to him proactively when we met during the church service. But he doesn’t seem to like to talk to me and I can sense that he doesn't really like to talk to me. (P.S most of the time, I met him in the occasion of cell group meetings...which consist of many other people)
However, whenever I did not go to church for service...he would text me and start talking to me and stuff like that.
I am really afraid that he may sense my crush on him so I decided to leave the church and join another church for Sunday service.
But when I left the church, he started to proactively chat with me in text and ask how my life is now!?
To be honest, my crush on him has not subsided, despite the fact that I have already left the church.
I really don't know what he is up to. That is, does he still want to remain friends with me? Or he likes me? Or what???
I still cannot let go of him!!
What can I do?
- emogirl0518, you are not alone. Being a teenager or young adult is a difficult time in ones life and it can be very confusing. Teenagers go through a lot of changes they have new emotions to deal with, physical changes in their bodies, and somewhere along the line they have to figure out how to be independent adults.
- Try to keep this in mind when thinking about this guy (he is going through all this as well). Give him time to sort him self out, remain friends if possible, and just see how things go.
- Don't feel pressured into having a romantic relationship, just because everyone else is doing it, or you think its the right thing to do. Everyone's path in life is different. Take your time and figure out what your path is.
- Find someone you trust to talk about your feelings with or keep a journal this can be very helpful to get through things, work out how you feel, and make plans for the future.