AmberMae.16, 16

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AmberMae.16, 16

The new school year started and I'm having trouble with some of my old good friends. Both the girls I was close to last year have completely lost interest in being my friend. One of them, I became close friends with and hung out with her over the summer tons. But she just became best friends with her old best friend and I feel like I'm left out 99% of the time. But also, I am becoming better friends with her best friend than I am with her. Also, another girl that I became close to last year seems to only want me as a space filler. She doesn't care who it is as long as she is surrounded by people. At home, my mom got into a gigantic fight with her husband, who she has been having problems with for a very long time. After a couple weeks of being apart, my mom has decided to take him back. I hate her husband and get really uncomfortable around him. I'm feeling very lonely at home and at school as well. I haven't been able to focus on my school work and I'm feeling very very depressed lately. I sleep more and eat less.

Amrae.16 you are understandably concerned about your friendships. When you have a best friend who you are comfortable with, you don’t want things to change. Right now, you don’t really feel very close to anyone at school, and home doesn’t feel as safe as it used to. This would make anyone sad and lonely.
When things aren’t going well at school or at home, you get sad. Sometimes speaking to someone about how you are feeling really helps. Consider talking to your mom about both your situation with the girls at school and your feelings about her husband. She might have had similar problems when she was in school and be able to give you some good advice. Also, she may be able to lessen your concerns about her husband.
Sometimes when teens get older, they start to hang out with other people. New friendships will form while others will fade away. This new school year you are feeling the pain of changing friendships. However, the year also can give your some chances to meet new people and make some new best friends. Making new friends can be hard, but try to stay positive about it. Consider joining a new club or getting involved in some different activities. You will meet different people and perhaps make some new best friends.
If your sadness, sleeping and eating habits get worse, you may need some help. If talking to your mom doesn’t work, consider finding another adult you trust to talk to. Also, you may benefit from speaking to a professional counselor about your feelings of sadness.