jant, 16

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jant, 16

My story may not be as devastating as many. I’ve always been the good kid, the one that always has their homework, always makes A's, always does what their parents tell them to do, no questions asked and always does everything that I’m told. Since I turned fifteen, I stopped doing that. I skipped school all the time. I lied to my parents, lost their trust, and became a major disappointment. I miss being that girl that always was an achievement. I’m tired of the dirty looks my parents give me, I’m tired of skipping school, I’m tired of being a failure, and I’m tired of being here. I want to change, but I do not know how, and I do not know if I can. I have no one to talk to, no one to go to. I am lost.

Jant, it is understandable to feel lost with the way your parents are treating you. Sometimes being the good girl might make your peers believe you are trying to be different. Earning your parents' trust back might be difficult. Try looking at this as a learning experience as who you want to be as an adult.
Try talking to your parents about your behavior. Try explaining why you skipped school and lied to them. Consider how you made them feel when you lied to them. Maybe you could explain what you wanted to gain from skipping school and lying. Consider asking how you could earn back their trust.
Try talking to your friends about when their parents caught them in lies. Try discussing how their parents reacted when they caught. Try asking how they fixed things with their parents. Maybe you could talk about how it feels when everyone has a negative view of you when you are the "good girl". Consider how you could change the way the 'good girl' image could be seen as a positive thing.
Consider talking to your teachers about your grades. If there are classes that you have difficulty with, consider asking for help. If your friends begin to tease you about not skipping school anymore, try to remember how your parents would react. Consider what bad things could happen to you, for example someone could snatch you off the street.