tink95, 17

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tink95, 17

When I was four years old, I had to leave my real mom, dad, and brother. It was hard for me to leave my family. I did not know my dad at all because he was in and out of jail. My mom and dad did not know how to take care of both of us. I know that I can forgive them at one time, but right now, I cannot. My mom and dad just found me at fourteen years old, and I have been talking to them ever since they found me on Facebook, even my brother. My brother is two years older than me. I have not seen him or my parents for fifteen years. I am going to see them soon. I am going to go back to Florida. I am hoping that they are doing better this time. I really want to see my family soon. All of this is true.

tink95, it must have been very lonely without your parents and brother with you. It is common for children to be taken from their biological parents if the parents cannot take care of them. Many biological parents want to give their child a better life.
Maybe you could bring one of your foster relatives with you, like your foster parent. This might be a good idea to show your biological parents the kind of family you grew up in. Consider bringing childhood pictures or personal things you want your biological parents to know about you. Maybe you kept a stuffed animal or piece of jewelry that reminded you of your biological family.
You might consider asking your parents what happened with their lives after you left. Try discussing how they felt when they gave you up. Maybe you could ask how they would have handled things differently. Try to understand your parents' choices for your well fair.
Consider talking to a counselor about your family situation. Try discussing why you are having a hard time forgiving your parents. Maybe you could discuss what you would like to happen when you see your biological family again. Try asking how you could stay close with your foster family and improve your relationship with your biological family.