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lovedestories, 19
I have been suffering from clinical depression for the last 3 years. It is mainly due to the negative events that I have experienced in school.
The events go like this: I have been a social out-cast in my class for the last 3 years with a class that is predominantly one single race and I am a race of the minority. I feel very insecure and lonely in the school so I eventually met a guy and fell in love with him. But in the end, my boyfriend toyed with my feelings and started liking another girl after six months of us being together! I am so heartbroken! From then on, I cannot concentrate in my studies and I left the school without completing my 12th grade and I am now deferring my studies until next year to rest at home for my illness.
These events have impacted me greatly because I lost faith in relationships and suffer from self-bitterness due to long time loneliness and friendlessness in school. I also have social phobias when I am socializing with my peers in church, which is outside my school. Furthermore, when I go back to school next year, I will be 20 and my classmates will only be 17 or 18 years old, which means I will be 2 or 3 years older than them. I feel a bit ashamed. What can I do to help myself?

- Lovedestories, when faced with challenging obstacles in life, feeling unsure of how to handle the aftermath is completely natural.
- If you have not sought professional help, seek helpful resources from a family doctor. Talking with a professional who is familiar with depression could benefit you in many ways.
- When it comes to your social phobias, research programs within your community that will allow you to work towards being comfortable around your peers. If possible, try mingling with peers of your race and then gradually interact more with individuals of different cultures/backgrounds.
- Before you return back to school, ask your parents to arrange a meeting with the school counselor. This way, all three of you will be able to discuss some special accommodations for you during your last year.
- If you truly feel that going back to school will only make you worst, consider homeschooling your last year; however, you should still try to reach out to others so you will not feel caged in and lonely. This could also help you work on building better relationships.
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