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candgirlxx, 14
Basically, I was in a relationship with a guy that I fell in love with the moment that I set eyes on him. He's from a relatively poor family. By the way, he's from England, and I currently live in Iraq. He lives two hours away, so at first there was no way that I could tell him how I felt. A year later, I saw him again, and I told his cousin, who used to be my friend, to tell him how I felt. Instead, his cousin told him that I hated him. I found that out later. A couple of months later I saw him at my uncle's house, and it was amazing. He felt the same way about me, and I just went crazy when I saw him. It was the best feeling in the world. We kissed for the first time. One month later, I saw him again, and it was even better. We spent about five hours together with my cousins. This was the last time I saw him. That was about seven months ago. About three months later my mom's sister found out, and she told my mom. My mom absolutely hates his family. She literally went crazy, and it became a big fight between our families. Our communications are cut off completely. I've always tried calling his dad in necessary circumstances, but after the big fight his dad forbade me to contact any member of his family. I don't even know if I'm in a relationship anymore or if I'm still his girlfriend. By the way, I'm forbidden to go anywhere near the city he's in. Every single relative I had turned against me after this and made up a million rumors about me. What hurts is that he doesn't know that after all this I still love him, and I'm still trying to contact him. But if I take one more risk, that's it. My parents gave me one more chance to let go. I'm Muslim by the way, but I'm from London, so I'm sort of different than the people here. I don't know what he thinks about all of this. Everybody tells me to let go, and I've tried, but he means too much. Please give me some advice. It really means a lot. I'm 16 by the way.

- candgirlxx, you are not alone. Sometimes parents make choices for their children that are tough to live by.
- Parents set rules that they believe will keep their children safe and out of harms way. It isn't always easy to understand those rules, but they are rules nonetheless.
- It doesn't take a lot to get families fighting when emotions are high and parents are worried. It might take some time for things to cool down.
- It's important that you talk to your parents and let them know how you feel. It's also important for you to understand how they feel. Since this boy seems to have strong feelings for you, and he is probably going through the same thing and hoping that you know he cares still. Be patient and in time things might work out best for both of you.
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