iNSANE, 17

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iNSANE, 17

I've hit a wall now. I'm crying my eyes out because I made a decision as to whether to continue a long distance relationship or start a new relationship here with another girl. I chose the new relationship, and now I find myself regretting it all. The new girl is very great, but now I come to find out my ex deleted me off Facebook and hasn't talked to me in days. I'm crying like I've never cried before. I loved her very much, or at least I thought I did. Whatever I feel for her is still inside me, and I can't handle the thought of her letting me go. I didn't tell her about the new girl, but I asked her if we could possibly rekindle our relationship later on in the future. She didn't think she could make it that far. I think she hates me now, and I don't know what to do. I still love her. What if my ex-girlfriend has stopped loving me? I can't take any more pain. I've been in the most pain I've ever felt all week, and it just doesn't go away. What should I do?

iNSANE, it is natural to have some lingering feelings for an ex-girlfriend after you begin to date someone else.Maybe she was not the person you wanted in a long-term relationship. Some people have a hard time dealing with a breakup.
Couples who break up delete each other's social media pages for various reasons that may have nothing to do with you. Some people might need to disconnect after a breakup because they need to get their emotions under control in order to face their ex.
Try talking to your parents or older sibling about your relationship. Many adults have had trouble dealing with conflicting emotions after a breakup. Consider asking their point of view on your ex-girlfriend's behavior.
Consider talking to your current girlfriend about her past relationships. Try asking how things ended with her ex. Maybe you could discuss whether it is a good idea to keep in contact with an ex-partner after a breakup. Open conversations about feelings from a past relationship might help you understand your own. In addition, you can learn how she feels about her past relationships. Try explaining your feelings about your ex and how she could help you.
It might be a good idea to make sure a new relationship is what you want. You might try writing down the things you would like to say to your ex. For example, if you were unsure with a long-distance relationship, try telling her that. Be honest about the reasons why you broke up. Some ex-couples can remain friendships. Just work on your current relationship for the time being.