Mac1998, 14

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Mac1998, 14

This is strange for me to vent on a website that I don't know anything about, but lately I have been getting down on myself. My brother and sister just moved out of the house to go to college. Now I feel like everything is focused on me. My parents don’t understand that I am not the student that my sister was or that I am all alone when I study. I’m sick of feeling like I should always be trying to live up to someone. I guess I just needed a way to release. I know that I could make better grades in school, but whenever I sit down to study, I get distracted and want to do something else. On top of all that, I feel like I don’t have a friend that I could really talk to.

Mac1998, you are right to vent your frustration about how your parents are treating you as your older sister. Consider how disappointed they are with older sister's behavior and how her actions affected their trust in her. Sometimes parents forget that not all of their children will turn out the same way.
Try sitting down and talking to your parents about how they are treating. Maybe they do not see how they are hurting you by thinking you will behave like your older sister. Maybe you could ask what they expect from you. Try discussing how your sister's older actions did to you.
Perhaps you could do your homework with your parents. This might give them a chance to see that you are working on your homework. For example, you could do homework together a couple of times a week. Try doing your homework at the library or in another room in your house to avoid distractions. Maybe you could listen to music as you do your homework to block out the distractions around you.
Try to understand you are not your sister. As long as you know this, you can’t go wrong. If there are a favorite show you, try watching it with your parents. It could make a great conversation starter. Maybe you could ask your parent what they like about you. Try using writing or poetry to vent your feelings.