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sportygal123, 12
I have a friend and her father just passed away. She is doing okay. But she gets bratty and thinks that she can just leave people out. I don't really know what to do.
- Losing a parent is a very significant event in one's life. You are a good friend for wanting to be with her now.
- It may be best if you try and sympathize with your friend. For her it is probably pretty traumatic and life changing. Many things are flowing through her head, one thing could be her feeling of misfortune and possible payback in other aspects of life for the death of her father. She may connect her fathers' loss and the increased ability to inherit other things around her. This feeling may be based on anger, sadness, or guilt. Try and share those feelings with what she is going through.
- Realize that her brattiness may have nothing to do with her fathers' death. She may be like that or could be dealing with other stressors in her life. Assuming that there is a direct connection may not be helpful. Being a friend, it may be a good thing if you try and talk with her about possible things that she is dealing with.
- Also, it may be positive if you try and encourage your friend to seek out help from teachers, counselors, or trusted adults. Sometimes thiese events can be really hard on anyone and having someone to talk to and support you may be the key for healing and finding peace with the death.
- As much as you may want to help, try and understand if she needs space. Sometimes people aren't always ready to talk about some of the things that happened until a certain amount of time has passed. However, when she is ready it is pretty important to have people listen and show love for what you have been through and how their lives will be shaped differently from then on.
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